Wednesday, July 8, 2009

Forgiveness: 346th Idea

Forgiveness is one of those deep things which may not come naturally to a headstrong young man or woman yet which, adopted as a way of life, can transform the inevitable disappointments and negativity of life. To forgive is to understand.

Forgiveness is often thought of as something done for others. But forgiveness can necessitate forgiving our very own selves--by ourself.

Charity, kindness, and understanding are part and parcel, and intimately woven into forgiveness. On the one hand, self responsAbility requires that we see that we are responsible for everything. Thus no one is ever to blame in many situations. And, with that, on the other hand, there is another component of life and nature 'just happening' and while in most cases with notable exception, we are responsible for our life but NOT to blame. As Buddha said, 'Where there are human beings, there is always blame'.

With such a vast force in human society, forgiveness is necessary, for elsewise all would become tainted or tarnished. Who can you forgive today, and what can you accept?


Anonymous said...

Hi there,

I didn't want to clog up BDK's blog with this. I am not looking for a fight. And I am not upset. I was just asking BDK a question. And to be honest your long answer didn't answer my question and came off as a little condescending. I have spent many hours looking at many chess sites, reviews etc. etc. as have all of us. I am very familiar with many of the books that you listed. I have gone through some of them and/or plan to go through others.

I was asking BDK a simple question about a piece of software that he seemed knowledgeable about. I am sorry if that offended you.

I wish no ill will towards you or anyone. I have been having fun watching and reading the various chess blogs. I was just asking a question and you chose to tell me to give BDK a "break" as if I somehow did something wrong.

I hope you have a good day and that this is all okay now.


Tom G

transformation said...

thank you tommyG.

this is very nice of you and says a lot about you. i hope that i can learn from this too. i did not intend to condesend but appreciate how you would come to feel that. my appologies in kind.

take care, and have a very nice day.

thank you. dk

Anonymous said...

Hey Transformation,

I am glad we are all square! Have a great weekend and I look forward to seeing you around the blogospher!